Philemon 1:11-14 meaning

As Paul stated his request for Onesimus, he made a play on words with Onesimus's name: I appeal to you for my child Onesimus… who formerly was useless to you, but now is useful to both you and me (Philemon 1:10-11). Onesimus's name means useful.

Formerly, or until now, Onesimus was useless to Philemon because he had run away. He was not working for Philemon. And his flight likely caused problems in Philemon's business. And in a larger sense, Onesimus was also useless to Philemon in so far that he was an unbeliever only working for Philemon's earthly riches. But now as a brother in Christ, Onesimus could seek Philemon's eternal good.

Onesimus became very useful to Paul and his ministry during his imprisonment. Paul does not go into detail as to how Onesimus was useful or what roles he served. But perhaps Onesimus brought other slaves or runaway slaves to Paul where he could teach them about the hope and love of Jesus. Or perhaps Onesimus served Paul as he had served Philemon. With its message of eternal hope and everlasting rewards, the gospel spread fastest among the poor and the outcasts. The early church was heavily comprised of servants and slaves. So much so that both Paul and Peter address the gospel's implications for believers who were slaves (Colossians 3:22, Titus 2:9-10, 1 Peter 2:18-20.) It is possible that Onesimus was instrumental and highly effective in helping Paul communicate the gospel among Rome's lower classes.

But even though Onesimus had become useful to Paul in his imprisonment, Paul knew it was not right or lawful to keep a friend's runaway slave behind his back. Paul wished to keep Onesimus with him so that on your behalf he might minister to me in my imprisonment for the gospel. Paul would have preferred to keep Onesimus by his side so he could continue helping Paul share the gospel. But doing so would have been a deception of his friend and deprive Philemon the opportunity to freely participate in these blessings.

Just as Paul did not use his apostolic authority to command Philemon, neither did Paul use deceit to compel Philemon by hiding Onesimus from him. Paul opted for consent over compulsion. Paul told Philemon, but without your consent I did not want to do anything. Paul did not wish that Philemon's goodness to effectively be done by compulsion and behind his back. "For love's sake" (Philemon 1:9), Paul wished for Philemon to choose what was good of his own free will. Love is only possible when it is freely chosen. We have very ugly terms for coerced relationships. Only freely chosen relationships can be rooted in love.

So, Paul made the difficult but loving choice to have Onesimus sent back to Philemon in person. In doing so, Paul told Philemon that he was sending my very heart. Given that this letter is in the Bible, we know that Onesimus delivered the letter in person. The fact that Onesimus would have done so demonstrates a major change of heart and attitude. Onesimus could have been signing his own death warrant.

The phrase, sending my very heart, reveals Paul's affection for Onesimus and the pain and difficulty he felt about sending his beloved child to answer for the crime he committed. Unless Paul was somehow told by God how Onesimus would be received, there was no way to know for sure how Philemon would respond. Thus, Paul made this difficult choice acting on the three Christian virtues of "faith, hope, and love" (1 Corinthians 13:13).

We have already seen how Paul was acting "for love's sake" (Philemon 1:9) when he sent Onesimus to Philemon.

Paul hoped that Philemon would choose what was best and return Onesimus to Rome where he could continue to minister to him in his imprisonment for the gospel. At the very least, Paul hoped that Philemon would not exact his legal retribution upon Onesimus by punishing him or having him put to death for running away. In sending Onesimus to Philemon, Onesimus' life and Paul's heart were in Philemon's hands. Paul had a hopeful expectation that Philemon would of his own free will and goodness, consent and do what was best.

In sending Onesimus to Philemon, Paul had faith in Jesus that even if Philemon made a terrible decision, that Christ would work this for the good of both Paul and Onesimus (Romans 8:28). The fact that Onesimus willingly followed Paul's admonition to return to Philemon speaks of a major change of heart and attitude.